Yup.....Im going to write about BOYS today.
I like boys, I think they're cute.
So I guess this is my boy advice to you. Prepare yourself for something really good, or something really crappy.
I had liked this guy for almost 5 years. Sort of like and on and off relationship. We were best friends at the time that I started liking him, and by senior year, he was just a stranger.
Im not going to tell you the whole story cause to tell you the truth...it stresses me out!
I took a huge risk my senior year. I had decided to yolo the whole thing. I told HIM that I loved him. It was the scariest thing I've ever done in my life and surprisingly, it was the best thing I had ever done. I came out of my shell and just told him the truth. He didn't feel the same way back.....at all. It then turned into a disaster. Our friendship started falling apart. I wanted to get over him by avoiding him and just trying to focus on me, but it was impossible with him being in some of my classes. By the end of the year, we were no longer on speaking terms. I saw him today and somewhere inside of my thought all the memories were going to come rushing back after not seeing him all summer. Little did I know, I felt nothing.
Rejection sucks. Im not going to tell you that Im grateful for that experience, cause Im not. Its been hard for me not to talk to him anymore, he was one of my best friends.
Now....it took me to feel nothing for a whole entire year. Here is where my advice comes in.
Let it all out! Cry for 3 nights in a row, eat chocolate and watch the notebook, listen to sappy love music. Someone told me all of this and I thought she was crazy, BUT it helps. So cry yourself to bed for a whole entire week if you need to. Once you've let it out, I promise you'll feel better.
Keep yourself busy. Time will go faster and your mind will be thinking of something else instead of him. Excerise is a great one! Whenever I run, it clears my mind and I stop stressing out. Its sort of my escape from the world. I dont know if you guys feel the same but try it! Its therapeutic and you get in shape!
Do more of what makes you happy. Learn a new language, read a book, draw, etc.
You will learn more about yourself and it will keep you happy!
Music. Listen to music. Make your own music. Write lyrics. Play the piano for hours.
If I didn't have music, I dont even think I would be over him. Music is such a great way to express what you're feeling, writing music gives you a freedom. You can write about how he broke your heart, or how much you still love him. Music is a way to express ourselves. So listen to some love songs or listen to metalica, dont be afraid to show your feelings. Here are some great songs if youre feeling down.
"Fell In Love Without You" - Motion City Soundtrack
"Little Darling"- Lewis Watson
"It Could Be Better"- Lewis Watson
"White Blank Page"- Mumford and Sons
"Back to Manhattan"- Nora Jones
"Come Away With Me"- Nora Jones
"The Thing About Love"- Alicia Keys
"Another Love"- Tom Odell
"Hand-Made"- Alt J
"All I Want"- Kodaline
Tell him how you feel. If that could be the only advice I would give, this would be it. Dont bottle up your feelings cause it will just make the situation worse. You will never know what would've happened if you didn't tell him how you felt. What's the worst that can happen?
DONT LET HIM WIN. Show him what he's missing out on. Dress like a million bucks! (It will make you feel better). Please dont stalk him on social media, you're not helping yourself. Dont let him talk you down, be yourself and dont let anybody change that. Dont take any crap from him, you are to good for him! Be the boss ;)
I hope you guys know how much you deserve. Dont be with someone that pulls you down. It takes time to get over someone who has been a big part of your life. Everything happens for a reason, you may not know why yet but keep your head up and expect for the best! I hope this has helped some of you, I know that it has helped me tons.
Stay Classy
Andy xx
